death

My father in law is dying. He's been told he probably won't make it to his birthday, which is march 18th. However, he sounded good the other day, so he's clearly having better and worse days. It's just so tricky. Carrie isn't even sure she wants to see him before he dies, but we told him if he can just hold on until the 14th we'll be in indiana. If he doesn't, we hop on the train the next day and get there for the funeral and such. And then again, if we go for spring break and he doesn't die then, I leave carrie up there indefinately perhaps, or we both go back and then what happens when he dies? We can't afford 2 trips. We honestly can't afford this one, but we don't have a choice. And I'm really afraid of what will happen if she has to deal with his crazy wife and everyone if she goes by herself...so I just don't know. Why can't people die on schedule? That sounds bad, but I know there are people who understand. Death is so complicated...